Well this thread has really become all about self harm lol, so I'll just add my 2c. Disclaimer/confession--I've been a cutter for 5+ years. Here is something that those who are younger/in school may not realize perhaps. Its all very well to talk about if you should show scars in various social situations, to various people in your life, friends, SOs, relatives and so on, but once you're older and attempting some sort of professional life and career, scars are one huge big taboo. And what I mean is, you simply cannot go to an interview in a short sleeved or 3/4 sleeved top if you have zebra stripes up and down your arms, no matter if they are faded (in my case they are blatantly obvious, even though some are 5/6+ years old) and no matter if it is 100+ degrees outside. What I'm trying to say is that in this case its not about showing character, or not being afraid to discuss past issues, or all these other things you girls mentioned, when it comes to an interview, or a job, its simply not accepted. You can flaunt other types of self harm at jobs (which is the irony here since alot of these are actually more harmful than cutting) I've had jobs where everyone would go for drinks and some would blatantly get wasted multiple times a week, so alcoholism is sort of culturally ok. Same goes for prescription drug use/abuse, overeating/binge eating, etc all of this you can display (depending how long you've been at a job and how relaxed the atmosphere is). But cutting? Absolutely not. Thats what I've found anyway at the jobs I've been in. I suppose it does depend too how bad the scarring is, I mean a few cuts here and there perhaps is ok. But like I said, zebra stripes up and down your arms means you will be wearing long sleeves in any weather and at all times of the year if you are in a work/professional setting. Something to think about for the younger girls on here.
Never really cared about her, buts pics and convos about her have been popping up on my dash. She looks very thin right now.
Also, either she isn't great at photo shop, or she smacks on paint like a drag queen because there is something weird about her face in these pics. Like the gradient of her facial skin doesn't match the skin on her arms or even collarbones.
Also, she's likely intentionally over-exposing her face with her monitor. So, that coupled with her Photoshop skillz makes for an unnatural image
Never really cared about her, buts pics and convos about her have been popping up on my dash. She looks very thin right now.
Also, either she isn't great at photo shop, or she smacks on paint like a drag queen because there is something weird about her face in these pics. Like the gradient of her facial skin doesn't match the skin on her arms or even collarbones.
If she really looked anything like this, I'd be a fan.
I don't know if this has been posted, found it on Tumblr recently:
The first picture's is a screenshot from one of her live streams, the second one a picture she posted on her blog. I know she's moving/talking in that very moment but still ... it doesn't explain why her facial shape changes dramatically, where her collarbones hide and why her nose expanded all over her face.
Any verdict?
She doesn't need this hardcore photoshop...Yes, she's got eyes circles due to her sleep problem, and laugh lines (but remember Sasha also have some? and remain cute?).
I absolutely agree with this. There comes an age where people no longer think of you as 'hardcore' or 'poor troubled soul' or whatever when they see your scars. Instead they think of you as a weak person who is unable to deal in a more eloquent way with personal problems. This is at least the experience I made.
if you have scars or other visible signs of any issues or illnesses, no matter if they are forner issues and you're already over it, you're nonverbally telling a part of your story and can't really do something about it.
in my case, i lost all my hair due to a certain form of alopecia and so i have to wear wigs. since 7 years. very good ones, like those they use in the movies, but still some people see the difference. plus, i lost my eyebrows and lashes too. slowly they grow back and i wear heavy eye make up, smokey eyes, big eyeliner and so on to cover it. but i can't prevent people seing it when they come close. so i have to live with people watching me too. and i tell my story every day without wanting it.
so i totally get your point @leila.
For those who know her tendencies better than I do, on a scale of 1-10 how photoshopped do you think these are? Could she really be this thin?
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Ok everything else aside but I really like these shoes too bad they'd probably be unaffordable to me and I also would have absolutely nowhere to wear them :hmm: