- May 20, 2013
I don’t see any laws which are unequal in terms of gender. In fact, the courts are lenient towards women in terms of sexual assault, child custody, among other things. Crimes that are more commonly against women such as sexual assault seem to be only crime which don’t require evidence or even for timely reporting by the victim. Could you imagine accusing someone of murder and for them to be sentenced guilty without total empirical evidence?
I’m sorry he was an asshole, but you are protected by the law. If your workplace failed to protect you and it was genuine assault then you could have gone to the legal system. I don’t know any court which would be biased towards a sexual predator if they were truly sexually abusing people—especially with this notion of ‘always believing the victim’ (which is totally dangerous and actually endangers men). Women need to take responsibility for their own actions and justice. I don’t see people wining or hesistating to call the police when they’ve been physically attacked in a non-sexual context.
The disparity between mildly inappropriate flirting and sexual assault is so wide yet often blurred. One ‘mistake’ in treating someone badly doesn’t make someone a terrible person either, so perhaps he deserved to be promoted for being great at his job in his position, perhaps not, despite of his ‘mistake’. What he did was probably shit but everyone needs to stop acting like being touched on the waist or even further sexual advances are the worst crime in the be world if a simple ‘no’ or even ‘fuck off’ would suffice to end those interactions. If they then try to proceed after you’ve not consented and you have repeatedly made it clear it’s unwanted, then you have grounds to sue for sexual assault. It’s pretty simple. There’s a serious hysteria over ‘every single man being a sexual predator that is out to get you!!!’ and to perceive unwanted attention as a potential rape is to just perpetuate all this.
So no, I don’t appreciate Emily’s brand of ‘feminism’ since she should be out trying to advocate for women who aren’t protected by the law instead of enabling women in the West to continue to believe that women are just ‘so oppressed’. And why she looks so short? Beats me.
What you're missing is that America's feminism has an attitude problem, not necessarily a legal one.
Our attitude is that it's OK not only to grab women by the pussy, but to make men who do president. Women without legal protection are a whole other ball of wax. It's perfectly reasonable to advocate that Americans learn how to respect their own legislation.
You can compare it to MADD -- Mothers Against Drunk Driving. While drunk driving was illegal when MADD was founded in 1980, it was still a rampant problem. By changing attitudes, MADD made it normal to designate drivers and confiscate someone's keys when they've had too much, and drunk driving has been reduced by half since its founding.