if a friend of mine would tell me that she got fingered and didn’t want to, I wouldn’t discuss it.
Neither would I. But emrata is a public figure who wrote an essay about her experience and had it published in an online magazine for the entire world to read. Not only does she expect people to discuss it, she wants people to discuss it (albeit she wants people to discuss how horrible Leder is).
So many girls find themselves in situations, even having sex with their boyfriend, that they feel pressured to or feel forced. I’ve been feeling so myself.
Of course. I don’t think anyone here is saying she didn’t feel forced or pressured. But Leder didn’t know that until she pushed him away. Regardless, I’m not sure what your point is here. Yes, girls sometimes feel pressured to have sex with their boyfriends. And that makes the boyfriends guilty of what, exactly?