I edited my post a bit to make more sense
, so perhaps it gets my point over more clearly now, but I think the general gist of what I'm saying is that the reality of an anorexic person's weight status is probably less influential on their recovery than their ability to disentangle their sense of self from their weight, whatever it is.Please forgive me for pushing the point; I suppose the reason why it means something to me is that I thought your post could perhaps be read as saying 'Yeah, well, she might have succeeded in conquering her life-threatening mental illness or whatever, but AT LEAST SHE'S NOT FAT!!'; I also found your assertion that 'recovering anorexics actually are fat' maybe a bit of a generalisation, if you're only actually referring to one person, and I suppose I feel worried about generalisations that might confuse people on this issue. I'm sure that's not at all what you meant, but I guess just the idea of that thought triggered me a little. I could definitely be being over-sensitive though, and can only really talk about how I feel about weight gain. Let's hope it's easier for Nancy.
My mom was horribly bulimic during high school, and although she is very healthy and happy and recovered now, I can still tell that weight will always be something that tortures her. And she definitely had her influences on me. I remember being 9 years old and not wanting to wear shorts because I thought my thighs were fat. And I didn't learn how to swim until I was about 12 because at 7 years old I thought I was so fat that I would sink in the water. I can't remember when or how I got over those negative thoughts, but I definitely did because by 15 I was starting to look like a chubby little hamster for real. 
